Perfectionism of the ludicrously destructive variety

Perfectionism of the ludicrously destructive variety

Perfect. Even the word sounds perfect. To be perfect is to be excellent, to be correct, to be entirely without defects and to be absolutely beyond any improvement. Achieving perfection is impossible, yet this perfectionist strives for perfection on a daily basis. It is no wonder that I fall into a pit of despair when […]

Mastering control or gripping on for dear life

Mastering control or gripping on for dear life

One of my biggest fears in life is not being in control. This may seem like a foreign concept to a lot of people, but to me the idea of not being able to control everything and everyone petrifies me. Recently, when I noticed how afraid I was of letting go of this control I […]

What it means to notice the pink cherry blossom in life

I was sitting on the train today, and I opened my eyes to the present. I have always been a day dreamer; quite content to sit in silence and ponder life. However, closer examination reveals that this so called “day dreaming” could quite easily be defined as self-obsession. Sure I was thinking, but generally I […]

Could compassion be the answer when dealing with the prison population?

I am employed in various positions, both paid and unpaid, in which I am involved in some way with the criminal justice system. One of my positions involves conducting interviews with prisoners and their families on several different projects. When I explain to others what I do, I typically get two responses – both associated […]

Giving, with words.

This afternoon I was thinking about ‘us’ – you and me, him and her, and them – and about what makes us tick. From day-to-day, we get by with very little. We are very good at adapting to conditions and making use of what we have. In terms of material possessions, we don’t actually need […]