Dear Martina, with love: a letter from a hospital bed

Dear Martina, with love: a letter from a hospital bed

Dear Martina, You lie across from me, high on your hospital bed, your delicate and pale frame awash against the bright white sheets. I feel compelled to watch as my eyes align with yours. Your husband arrives early every morning, his cap positioned neatly on his head, and a bag in one hand. He sits loyally by your side […]

Mindful vs mindless competition: what you are sacrificing to be “the best”

Mindful vs mindless competition: what you are sacrificing to be “the best”

There have been a number of themes running through my writing over the last few months and they mirror what is happening in my life. One of these was a post I wrote for Blog Society on the nature of comparison and its ability to brandish self-criticism wherever it goes. I’ve also written a considerable amount about the need to […]

3 steps to setting healthy relationship boundaries

3 steps to setting healthy relationship boundaries

There seems to be a theme to my writing over the last month or so. A few weeks ago I wrote about the importance of taking care of ourselves in a post on people pleasing, which you can read here. This week I am giving three simple steps that could save your relationship.   Imagine, if […]

Could compassion be the answer when dealing with the prison population?

I am employed in various positions, both paid and unpaid, in which I am involved in some way with the criminal justice system. One of my positions involves conducting interviews with prisoners and their families on several different projects. When I explain to others what I do, I typically get two responses – both associated […]

Giving, with words.

This afternoon I was thinking about ‘us’ – you and me, him and her, and them – and about what makes us tick. From day-to-day, we get by with very little. We are very good at adapting to conditions and making use of what we have. In terms of material possessions, we don’t actually need […]