The truth of all things: how to be real and vulnerable in the face of imperfection

The truth of all things: how to be real and vulnerable in the face of imperfection

Follow my blog with Bloglovin Several weeks ago I wrote about a profound spiritual experience that occurred in my life six years ago. I spent months umming and ahhhing about whether to publish the post and didn’t do so due to fear. –>> I was scared that I would be judged for believing in God, […]

In August 2010 two miracles occurred: I stopped drinking and started believing in God

In August 2010 two miracles occurred: I stopped drinking and started believing in God

In August 2010 two miracles occurred: I stopped drinking and started believing in God. At the age of 27, it was’t how I predicted my life would be. If you’d sat me down as a 21 year old pill popping drum n bass DJ and said to me, ‘In six years time you will quit […]

An open letter to Tara Brach on her birthday

An open letter to Tara Brach on her birthday

Happy Birthday to the inspirational Tara Brach. Although I have never met you in person, I regard you as a mentor who has helped alter the course of my life. There was a time when I ran my life in a state of fear, anxiety, agitation, self-obsession and blame, self-pity, self-loathing and anger. I didn’t […]

Gratitude for 2015’s special moments: a recap on a few

Gratitude for 2015’s special moments: a recap on a few

On the first day of 2015 I began compiling a Little Bits of Happiness Jar (the idea of which came from a coaching friend Tracy Gardner). In it I wrote down achievements, moments of gratitude, love, connection and anything that I felt deserved some recognition.   I started this as a way of acknowledging myself […]

How my shadow saved my life

How my shadow saved my life

Lately I have felt tired, grateful, anxious, hopeful, sad, happy, uncertain, excited, the list goes on. That’s a lot more than I could have said six or seven years ago. Back then if someone asked me how I was feeling I probably would have responded with ‘good’ and then walked away. Anxiety was like my […]

The most important thing you can do to free yourself from negative self-judgement

The most important thing you can do to free yourself from negative self-judgement

Last week an incident occurred when I was teaching and I slipped into fight/flight/freeze mode. I froze on the spot and couldn’t hear what people were saying, and didn’t know how to respond. This has a tendency to happen to me when I notice a threat to my environment. Tara Brach explains it in the following […]

Dear Martina, with love: a letter from a hospital bed

Dear Martina, with love: a letter from a hospital bed

Dear Martina, You lie across from me, high on your hospital bed, your delicate and pale frame awash against the bright white sheets. I feel compelled to watch as my eyes align with yours. Your husband arrives early every morning, his cap positioned neatly on his head, and a bag in one hand. He sits loyally by your side […]

3 steps to setting healthy relationship boundaries

3 steps to setting healthy relationship boundaries

There seems to be a theme to my writing over the last month or so. A few weeks ago I wrote about the importance of taking care of ourselves in a post on people pleasing, which you can read here. This week I am giving three simple steps that could save your relationship.   Imagine, if […]

Free the butterfly within: choose vulnerability

Free the butterfly within: choose vulnerability

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” Brené Brown, Daring Greatly Last week I was fortunate enough to have my parents staying with me for a week. I don’t know if I’ve written about my parents before, but I have to say that they are […]