From away-ness to awareness like a whack to the head

From away-ness to awareness like a whack to the head

For around five years I have been doing what I can to incorporate a more mindful and conscious presence into my life. This occurred like a whack to the head, rather than like a beautiful light changing moment.   One day I was running around, not giving a shit about myself or how my actions […]

The most important thing you can do to free yourself from negative self-judgement

The most important thing you can do to free yourself from negative self-judgement

Last week an incident occurred when I was teaching and I slipped into fight/flight/freeze mode. I froze on the spot and couldn’t hear what people were saying, and didn’t know how to respond. This has a tendency to happen to me when I notice a threat to my environment. Tara Brach explains it in the following […]

3 steps to setting healthy relationship boundaries

3 steps to setting healthy relationship boundaries

There seems to be a theme to my writing over the last month or so. A few weeks ago I wrote about the importance of taking care of ourselves in a post on people pleasing, which you can read here. This week I am giving three simple steps that could save your relationship.   Imagine, if […]

Why pleasing others may stifle your dreams

Why pleasing others may stifle your dreams

You are with someone you love, alone in the woods. It’s pitch black and you’re clinging to the back of their shirt, as it is the only way of knowing where you are going. Luckily they have a spotlight pointed directly on the path in front of them. Suddenly they fall, and you are left […]

Free the butterfly within: choose vulnerability

Free the butterfly within: choose vulnerability

“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” Brené Brown, Daring Greatly Last week I was fortunate enough to have my parents staying with me for a week. I don’t know if I’ve written about my parents before, but I have to say that they are […]

How to be kind, to yourself

How to be kind, to yourself

“Treating yourself like a precious object will make you strong.” – Julia Cameron The Artists Way Recently, I was asked what self-compassion meant to me. I usually incorporate the basic principle of self-compassion into my writing as it has become something I readily practice (read one of my posts here), but I have never attempted to write […]

What started out as a list of 31 fun things turned into quite the journey …

What started out as a list of 31 fun things turned into quite the journey …

Having fun is one of my core values. For me, having fun equates with happiness, joy and living life to the fullest. Earlier this year I got the idea to write a list of fun things to do from a friend (who passed on this article here). The idea is to write a list of […]

Move outside your comfort zone and step into the magic

Move outside your comfort zone and step into the magic

On Friday I took the plunge and started out on a different path. It is a shift away from what I know and am comfortable with and as a result I have all manner of fears lurking their beastly heads. I was reminded of this image, created from Bernd Geropp’s video on stepping outside our […]

Making space for grief with music and mindfulness

Making space for grief with music and mindfulness

Last week I shared my first series of posts that explored the theme: “Stay close to anything that makes you glad you are alive.” In it I shared about the importance of family, my nephews, and experiencing joy in life’s precious moments. You can read it here. This week, my intention was to write a […]